Step right up! Your perfect match is just a mouse click away! It seems that relationships now a days boil down to computer atha-rhythms. It seems that people are fed up to their impatient hearts with actually "choosing" to love someone. After all, love takes work! I mean, according to most of the online dating sites finding the perfect match should just really come down to a gazillion points of compatibility. Right? I mean who needs honest sacrifice, commitment, ...carrying someones burdens, and yes really, authentically, "choosing to love" rather then this pipe-dream of falling into it.
We have become such a consumer minded generation that we despise anything that takes well, Effort. It seems that the over-whelming majority of members on dating sites are shocked as soon as the relationship takes a turn and gets rocky. Many have reported on sites like match.com for example: That as soon as their online romance takes a argumentative turn, they question one another's honesty on the personal profile Q and A. It's as if their unrealistic expectations they have put into finding the super-mate wasn't the real cause of the let down. The demand for unrealistic expectations on any flawed human being is always bound to let anyone down.
Sad thing is most of these daters just throw in the towel and quit as soon as the real so-and-so shows their imperfections. The Kim Kardshian 9million dollar wedding and divorce seventy two days later is a prime example of one who believes "falling in love" is something that just "happens" to us. Rather, than "choosing" to love. The latter is a road filled with self denial, and sacrifice and compromise. But, the rewards have a far better long-term pay off. The moment one chooses to believe and say No to the "what's in this for "me" centered relationship?... And yields to a much more noble.. "What's in this for us? This is the road less traveled. But much more rewarding, and realistic.
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